The assignment is to start the post with a quote. I knew immediately that I wanted to quote Brene Brown.
The problem was choosing which quote to use. There are so many good ones. I want to use them all. I want to sit you in front of her TED Talk videos and make you watch them. Then you can choose your own favorite quote.
I guess that’s cheating though.
I do love the videos though and have watched them more than once. I love her books (at least what I’ve read of them). I think what she shares is important and worthwhile.
It’s just hard to narrow it down to the most important or the most worthwhile.
But finally I decided to just suck it up and pick one. I’m already crazy late posting this.
To create is to make something that has never existed before. There’s nothing more vulnerable than that. –Brene Brown
The above quote is actually quite apt. I feel incredibly vulnerable as a writer. Every single time I click post–whether it’s here or whether it’s the stories I write and post elsewhere or sometimes even just a Facebook post–the nerves almost kill me. Oh, my gosh, is this even any good? What will people think?
Once I started admitting to “being a writer” it got worse. It’s one thing to play around with a blog. But to admit that someday you’d actually like to do something with this writing stuff–well, that just raises expectations, doesn’t it? Suddenly you’re supposed to be good at this.
And I’m always terrified that maybe I’m really not. I’ve read good writers–really good writers who are deep and profound and awe me with their ability to use words. I frequently find myself thinking, I want to write like them when I grow up.
Of course, I keep learning and improving, but I only ever write like me.
Talk about feeling vulnerable.
Writing is my most dearly held dream, and in all fairness I’ve never had anyone not be supportive of that. I have truly great friends and family who get excited on my behalf when I talk about writing.
And then they want to read something I wrote.
Ugh. The fear comes again. I’ll never be able to live up to their expectations.
Or maybe it’s that I’ll never live up to my own.
And the last, which I think is probably the most important, is to believe that we’re enough. Because when we work from a place, I believe, that says, “I’m enough” … then we stop screaming and start listening, we’re kinder and gentler to the people around us, and we’re kinder and gentler to ourselves.–Brene Brown
And the truth is, I don’t know if I’ll ever be wholly satisfied with where I am as a writer. I kind of hope not, actually. I want to always be learning, growing, improving. We don’t ever really arrive.
But I’d like to reach a point where I at least feel comfortable–being proud of where I am now and how far I’ve come even as I strive to get better. A place of being “kind and gentle” with myself (that’s harder for me than being kind and gentle with others).
A place of not being terrified to click “post.”
P.S. I seriously do love Brene Brown’s TED Talks. If you have a few spare minutes I highly recommend them.